Valecia Weeks, Health Editor for Houston Forward Times Newspaper, is the owner of Assuring Hands Doula & Massage Care. She is a Professional Licensed Massage Therapist as well as a Birth Doula. Valecia is also licensed and certified in Personal Training with NESTA and ZUMBA.
Fear is a distressing negative emotion induced by a perceived threat .
Ask yourself, “Am I more afraid of succeeding or failing?”
I wish I knew the answer for me. Actually, sometimes I believe I’m afraid of succeeding and failing. If you have the same fear do you ask yourself the following questions: If I succeed, what will I do next? Will I actually be able to reach my goals? What if I never reach my goals? Guess what, none of us can give an answer to these. We, as women, can only do what we can and see where our journey takes us. Sometimes we beat ourselves up by thinking in the back of our minds, “I believe I’m subconsciously sabotaging all of my efforts. I did awesome for 28 straight days on my diet and workout plan…I stayed on target every day. I never strayed. Lately, I’m doing nothing but straying it seems.” Most of us do well by starting the day out on schedule and eating according to reach our set goal…OHHHH but when the afternoon hits. Then “out the window” goes the plan because of poor eating decisions, and we regret the actions the rest of the day. Ladies, why do we do this?!
So how do I conquer my fear? I just do it. Sounds easier than I know it is going to be. Ladies we can no longer give ourselves another choice. The only way we can succeed is if we try. Tell yourself, “If I don’t try and give it 110%, then I automatically fail. I am going to eat on plan each day and workout as I have scheduled.” Then tell yourself if you said it, that settles it.
Face your fear and plow through it. Break the chains and let nothing hold you back. Let’s take a look at some tips that can help all of us conquer the fear of reaching our fitness goals:
Tip #1 – Allow Yourself to Have Options
Fear based diet and exercise practices will tell you that their theory is the best and not only should you follow their advice, but you’ll be screwed if you don’t. Joy based practices recognize that their method is just one of many options out there. Kind of like a single item on an ever expanding menu. Very few fitness objectives have mandatory diet and exercise habits. Almost everything is optional and has at least some wiggle room. You don’t have to give up cookies to stay lean. You don’t have to do yoga for flexibility. You don’t need to run long distances to build endurance. You don’t have to do dead lifts to build a strong back. Getting in shape is like climbing up a mountain. There are many different paths and they all lead to the top.
Tip #2 - Pick The Options You Enjoy Doing For The Sake of Doing Them
Having a goal is important, but I don’t recommend relying on your goal to supply endless motivation. We’re often told that fitness is a journey and not a destination. If that’s the case then you are probably better off basing your actions on the positive aspect you feel towards the methods you use rather than just the goal you’re trying to reach. Try to be drawn toward a certain type of diet and exercise method; that way you are more likely to get many positive results through using it.
Tip #3 - Have Fun
Fun and enjoyment are as essential towards your fitness success as food and water. No matter what scare tactics you come across, your own fun and enjoyment far out weigh the importance of the latest research or studies. If a new study tells you how evil a food is, but you experience nothing but good things from eating it, then by all means, keep eating it. Remember, people have used fear to manipulate others since the dawn of time. Some fear is good. After all, it’s the reason why we buy insurance and buckle our seat belt. But when it comes to living your best life and building your best body, your diet and exercise methods are best to be based upon good feelings and enjoyment instead of fear. At the end of the day, excitement and joy build much more motivation than fear and regret.